Bill re-offends. There is NO cure for the Narcopath

I wrote my books five years ago now. Lots of water has gone under the bridge since I published the. As I've said many times, my main aims when writing these books was to give other people who have been through the nightmare of a relationship with a Narcopath hope, strength and the strength to get away.....forever!

Let me just reiterate what I've said already many, many times. THERE IS NO CURE FOR NPD/APD!

Recently, I had a review of my book, Web of Lies on Amazon

This person feels somehow disappointed that I didn't help my ex to 'cure' his 'illness'.

Let me please explain. There is NO cure! This is not an 'illness' it's a 'personality disorder'.

By very definition (and please double check with all the experts) a person who has NPD/APD can feel NO remorse! They can feel NO empathy. This is the reason it's classed as NPD/APD and not some minor mental illness. If you can get your husband/wife to to for therapy, then that's great! It's clearly not the PD's we are talking about here though.

The ONLY way to get away from a TRUE NPD/APD is to RUN, RUN, RUN! There is NO therapy for somebody who has no empathy!

I was recently contacted by the latest victim of my ex, Mr Bill Tate. She has spend a lot of time tracking me down via the UK marriage register and she eventually came across my books, which reaffirmed what she already knew about Bill.

I can't say I was surprised to hear from her. I had always suspected that I may hear from the next victim, and I was glad to pass some comfort forwards in the way Bill's late wife's family had done for me in my hour of need.

I must admit that hearing from the latest victim triggered me BIG time! I experienced a flood of the old feelings. The sense of injustice, and the fact he's been allowed to get away with it yet again hurt me right down to the core of my being.

But maybe this is all part of the healing process. I helped this lady by telling her she was not alone. She shared things with me and I was able to confirm to her that this man lies for a living. I even agreed to help her put a stop to his criminal activity.

It's all about passing a favour forward at the end of the day. If you, as a victim of a Narcopath, ever get contacted by his next victim....please help her. Only by uniting can we stop the abuse.

My wish is that this person, Bill, is now going to stop. Legal action is proceeding, but more than that, we (his victims) are all in touch with one another.

As I said before, there is no cure. APD is not like flu. It is inherent, vile, poisonous, and toxic. If you meet such a person, run for your life!

A quick update, and some feedback for readers.......

I've received a flurry of Emails from readers recently. I normally receive about an average of one a week, but lately there have been many more.

Whilst I don't have time to answer every one, I do read them all with interest and I'm truly grateful for all the wonderful feedback I get. The Emails reaffirm my resolve that writing Web of Lies and Renaissance was the right thing to do. I set out to share a very difficult story in the hope that it would raise awareness and help other victims to recognise the traits of NPD and APD. The feedback I get from readers shows me that I acheived my goal.

I know I haven't blogged for a long time. Real life took over! The kids are getting older, my working hours are getting longer. I have less 'time' for anything, it would seem. I've become a master procrastinator!
I still have lots of stuff to say. There are hundreds of blog posts in my head, and even about 40% of a third book already on paper....but alas, I've lost my 'Author' way of late. I need to find it again!

This week signals the fifth anniversary since me and the children last layed eyes on the Narcopath. In a way it still seems like yesterday. I can still picture his face as he said his last goodbye to the children, unable to look me in the eye.

It was the best thing he ever did for us and I remain grateful to this day that he left.

Yes, it's been a bloody tough five years. Yes, there have been times when I've felt true gut-wrenching desperation, even as things were seemingly improving for us. The cuts are deep, and they take a very long time to heal. But they are healing, slowly but surely. It just takes time!

This is why I want to acknowledge some of the recent Emails I've received. I want to reassure people that time does improve things, and that even though things seem dreadful now, they will start to improve, if you work really hard at it.

I've been amazed and horrified at some of the stories I've been told. I get upset and angry when I read about the havoc wreaked by these cold hearted, spineless men and women on their partners and children, not to mention the ripple effects on other family members and friends. I sometimes want to reach out to the victims and just give them a hug. 'I know how you feel' is all I can offer though. Sometimes it's good to just know that others understand, and that you're not going mad. We've all felt as though we were crazy during this roller coaster ride.

As I said, there are too many Emails to answer now, but I do wish to address a couple of people individually:

Linda: Hang in there. What you're going through now is the very worst part. It may not seem like it now but it can only get better from here on in. Try to stay positive and believe that you have a future. Get some help from those who love you. If they really love you, the WILL believe you.

Nancy: Be strong for the kids and draw strength from them! They will keep you going through all the bad stuff. Us Mum's have got endless amounts of strength inside, even if it doesn't feel like we have! Keep your parents close and tell them you love them and you're grateful for all that help. They're amazing parents. Treasure them.

Gayle: Your Email made me cry! Thank YOU for your words. I'm so pleased the book helped you!

Cynthia: Your mail really moved me too. You have been through hell and it has gone on for so long! My heart goes out to you. It's such a difficult situation with your daughter and I really feel for you. But she's an adult and she must decide for herself. All you can do is try to support her and understand. The chances are she's going to need you in the future, so you have to stay strong for her sake.
I really believe that you will be OK, it's never too late to turn things around. You've already taken the first step and that's almost half the battle! Please let me know how you get on.

Theresa: There are exceptions to every rule and maybe we shouldn't generalise by saying categorically that a person will or won't behave a certain way. Once thing about PD's is they are truly unpredictable. In your situation though, he did you a favor! Don't puzzle too much as to why he did it. Just be grateful that he did. You're much better off now.

Finally, to all those who have asked about writing a book, I say go for it! Journaling is a good way to start. That's how my books were born. Blogging is also a very good way to get your message out there to a wide audience. Even if you don't end up publishing, writing about your experience is amazingly theraputic and can help you to look back and see things much more clearly.

Thanks again for the mails. Please join me on Facebook (link on the left) for more updates and links to useful articles and resources.

Good luck to all for a peaceful and narcopath free festive season!

Sarah x

Joel Rifkin - psychopath....

Very interesting video. The Science of 'conscience' ?

The continuing LIE that we know as #McCann

Officer, officer...he looked like this.......



But no, officer. I suddenly remembered, he actually looks likes this!



Actually, no, maybe I got that wrong.....maybe he looked more like this??

(sorry, can't put the picure of that 'faceless copper' up because it's not online!)


Ahhh, yes, of course, this was the man we saw.......





And, I think an official police statement was made as to WHO this person was???? (please read the PJ files......)

Wake Up!!!!

www.mccannfiles.com

Help for the children of Gaza.......

I'm putting this here for a friend of mine who wants to make a difference in the world........

http://www.sponsume.com/project/send-me-gaza

Please send me to Gaza

Hi my name is Sarah Strudwick and I am an activist and writer on the subject of abuse, including children. My skills include avid social media blogging, and raising awareness of issues both home and abroad.

The harsh reality is that without your support I am cannot go so I'll try to keep the message short and sweet.

I've just been accepted on the convoy to Gaza which was organised by Harry Fear a journalist who lives and works in Gaza.

Many people in the UK and worldwide have been oblivious to the atrocities that happen in Gaza on a daily basis due to the fact that its rarely covered in mainstream news and often the news is biased. Thirty years ago I lived in Israel and saw what was happening first hand. Over the years things have become substantially worse ! As a result I have had a keen interest in observing what is happening albeit at a distance.

Its because of activists who have dedicated their lives to raising awareness that those who have had NO VOICE encourage others who are prepared to raise their voice for them, thus educating the more people about the atrocities.

These atrocities include: living in an open prison, and dealing with war on a daily basis and abuse of children and basic human rights. In addition Israel kidnaps approximately 760 children a year, and there are currently 243 Palestinian children under the age of 18, including 42 children under the age of 16, who are still imprisoned by Israel. I have refrained from posting graphic images on here.

Watch Harry explain his own reasons for helping describing what he saw in the mortuary.

Being accepted on the Convoy gives me the opportunity to see things first hand AND do something practical to help spread awareness on my return. My reasons for wanting to volunteer are too long to list, however to sum it up in a few words despite the potential risks involved.
Sometimes we have no choice but to follow our moral compass.
Its not always about taking sides but is about doing what is right!
A personal message

In my humble opinion I believe its our responsibility as citizens of this earth to do the best that we can but that does NOT mean having Stockholm syndrome or being codependent enablers of psychopathic behaviour.. By not telling people and not protecting those that are most vulnerable we are all part of the problem and complicit. We become nothing more than "enablers"

Sarah Strudwick

Blog off!!

Protecting free speech everywhere!

One billion rising....short film.....

**WARNING: MAY TRIGGER*

Thanks to S for sending this to me.......