Thursday, June 3, 2010


You must first have a lot of patience to learn to have patience...Stanislaw Lec

This is certainly true for me. I've never been known for my patience to be honest. As a little girl, I used to drive my parents mad with constant questions about 'how long until my Birthday?' or 'When will we get there?'
My own daughter is the exactly the same with me now, so I understand what my parents had to endure.

I'm not much better as an adult, to be honest. I'm always really eager to get things done. Some say this is a good trait and can have positive results. After all, from the moment I put pen to paper for the book - to today - has been a mere eight months. I guess once I got the idea to do it, I just wanted to move things along as quickly as possible.

Now the whole project is coming together, and I find myself sitting here filled with nervous anticipation. Only eight weeks to go, and the book will be released!

I don't know why I'm so impatient. There is still much to do. A feature article to be compiled, then accepted by the press. The cover design for the book, and not to mention the final tweaking and 'brushing up' of the website. There are publicity photos to be taken, media to plan....and a hell of a lot to learn about PR as well!

I'm learning by doing here, I might add!

Dr David Holmes, Forensic Psychologist and contributor to Web of Lies - My life with a Narcissist, is about to release his own book. It's called Abnormal,Clinical and Forensic Psychology. It's an educational tool, which identifies and analyses various personality disorders, including those described in my book. As he said himself in the comment he wrote for Web of Lies;

I have always emphasised the importance of real life case histories to the true understanding of dangerously disordered individuals. Being able to see their behaviour and thinking played out in the context of daily life enables untrained individuals to become slowly aware of the uneasy seam between their reality and our own.

Dr Holmes wrote the text book, I wrote a 'real life case history', and now they are both about to be published.

Perfect timing, I would say.

My hopes for this book are threefold:

Firstly: To bring the subject of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and it's related disorders, to a wider audience, and to help overcome the stigma which surrounds both the afflicted and the affected.

Secondly: To give a voice to a person whom I believe was seriously wronged in her life, then slandered upon her death. She can no longer speak for herself, so I am doing that for her now.

And finally: To (hopefully) inspire those who have found themselves in a simliar situation to the one I was in. There are millions of us, the world over. And we all need some reassurance, that whatever it was which happened, it was NOT our fault, and it CAN be put right...with strength, and a little patience.

Roll on August 1st.


  1. Sometimes it takes a lot more than a little patience to sew a life back together that has been fraught with chaos and destroyed temporarily by these people! They can so thoroughly dismantle a person's self-esteem and self confidence that is can take years for a person to finally get all the pieces put back together. Now that takes true patience with not only themselves, but the process of healing that must take place over time.

  2. Samantha HorridgeJune 21, 2010 at 3:04 AM

    I think you're not only inspiring those that have been affected by someone with the disorder but so many other people who have been through very difficult times. You've shown them that with patience and strength you can get through a lot. I think you're an inspiration to a lot of people